Updated: Dec 2, 2018
Are you proud of yourself? Do you like the person in the mirror? Do you feel a sense of peace?
Everyone wants to talk about self-care, but no one seems to want to discuss how to genuinely love yourself.
It is human nature to struggle with our sense of self. We are the most complex creatures on the planet — no shit we are hard to figure out.
I have four ways that will help you discover and develop your self-respect, in order to boost your self-worth and overall happiness in your life.
Look At Your Inadequacies
Let’s be honest, you are not living up to your full potential.
Where are you falling short? What areas are you procrastinating in? How are you showing up for yourself daily?
How many goals have you set this year that you have yet to fulfill?
Stop breaking promises to yourself & start making your visions a priority in your life.
Netflix and chill is healthy in moderation, but if it’s a nightly routine, it is sucking the opportunity right out of your life. Imagine if instead of spending 2 hours every night watching TV, if you used that time to do research and network and create a master plan for the next day, the next week, or year of your life.
Opera Winfrey & Marc Cuban have the same amount of hours in the day as you, they just use every minute to their advantage and don’t self-sabotage.
Be real with how you are showing up for yourself.
Most important — what you are not doing that you should be, in order to inch closer to your dreams. Forgive yourself quickly and then change the course that you have been on.
Get moving in a positive and rewarding direction. You’ll know when you are on the right track, because you will feel a sense of pride at the end of the day.
We all fall short of our own expectations. We all procrastinate when we know we shouldn’t. We are human — and an ever continuing and evolving work in progress.
Learn the skill of self-forgiveness and be the master at giving yourself some grace.
Stop Trying To Be Extraordinary
You have to stop expecting that you are going to be amazing right out of the gate. Greatness requires time and persistence.
Stop allowing your lack of experience to keep you from just getting started.
You have to learn to love the process of creating your best life. Learn to enjoy the small victories and celebrate your progress. Give yourself some credit for how far you have already come, and get excited about where you are going.
You don’t have to be extraordinary to be successful, but you do have to strive to become better than the person that you were yesterday.
Put In The Damn Work
Want to know the ultimate way to love yourself? Do the things that you said you would do.
Did you want to run 3 miles today but decided to lounge around the house instead? Did you start the Keto diet, only to fail 2 days in and then quit completely? Did you plan to put $1000 bucks in savings, but spent your bonus on bullshit?
Dude — stop putting your actions second to your goals.
The decisions that you make every-single-day, will determine whether or not you will look back on your life in thirty years with pride or feel an overwhelming sense of disappointment — or worse — regret.
No one cares about your life as much as you do, so make the effort to live out your visions.
Put in the time everyday to become the greatest person that you can be.
Do not leave a single opportunity on the table. Jump when life gives you a freaking lemon, and squeeze that bitch dry.
If you want to be worthy of loving yourself, you have to believe in all that you are capable of. Stop feeding off your excuses about why you can’t be freaking great. Tell that negative voice in your head to sit down and watch you work.
Start being honest with yourself about how you are falling short, and make room for improvement. Remember that it doesn’t matter how many times you fall short or make a mistake — the only thing that is imperative is that you get-back-up and keep trudging forward.
At the end of the day, you have to go to bed with yourself, make sure you like who you are sleeping with.